Tattood Buddhist responds to “Seeing Things”

“Seeing Things” writes

Dear Tattood Buddhist.  Hi I have a question. Ok, maybe more than one.  What is the term for when someone can see “demons” in people – or can actually see the darkness in them? And then also, are psychic abilities sub-categorized into types?  The other day I was visiting family and one of the uncle’s (who is a paranoid schizophrenic) was also there.  He has never frightened me before, but yesterday, he did.  At first he seemed fine and relatively “normal”.  Suddenly, at one point, his eyes changed, then his face changed into a completely different one.  It happened so fast and was so unexpected, that it scared me —  so much so that I started backing away.  Then, he just went back to his normal self again.  No one else noticed anything.  But I know that he knows I saw him, and even after he seemed normal again, he was very cautious of me.  He stopped talking to me, and I felt like he was watching me very carefully for the rest of the visit.  It was really, really weird. Let me clarify – I didn’t actually “back away”. I practiced the “it’s nothing to be scared of” technique that you gave me, before,  but greatly felt like I needed to get away from him.

Also, how does one know when it is time to pursue and develop such gifts/talents?

Can you help me see clearly, Tattood Buddhist?

 

Tattood Buddhist is visualizing an answer for you right now!

Dear “Seeing Things”… Oh, my dear… you ask the best questions!  Since I do know you, I feel that I can read between the lines a little and help you see things with 20/20 vision!

Hmmm… what to call you, what to call you???   Do you want to be called a “Sensitive”; “Psychic”; “Psychic Medium”; “Intuitive”; “Empath”?  There are plenty of categories and subcategories that you might adopt to identify yourself.  However, labeling yourself can be limiting and might feel like putting on a dress that doesn’t quite fit right.  Pick something that feels comfortable for you and go with that.  Or don’t label it for now and just see what develops!

It is thought that individuals with certain types of mental and brain illnesses are more open to be visited, inhabited or preyed upon by darker energies, lost souls and entities seeking access to this world.  Paranoid Schizophrenia is one of those illnesses where we see this happening sometimes.  However, if properly medicated and stable, this less likely to be an issue.  It seems that you did see “something”, but hard to say whether it is his own darkness, his Shadow Self or some form of entity or least likely a “demon”?  I cannot address that here. I can say that the “break” or “crack” that is the illness, often gives those individuals strong psychic abilities as well.

That is not to say that everyone with a Gift has a “break” or “crack”.  You have been dealing with facing your Gift for quite some time.  It seems that when you are relaxed or distracted or emotional, you are more “open” to “see” or have interaction with beings on the other side.  If you were “open” at that moment, it is quite reasonable to think that the uncle recognized this, yet did not know what to do with it.  Remember “paranoid” is part of his illness.  So you probably frightened him as much as he scared you.  And as soon as this dark part of him realized you saw him, it skedaddled!  Here is something to remember as you face your natural resistance to your abilities.  Lightness dispels the dark, my sweet friend, and you have a boatload of light to bring to the party!  I think you did the right thing by backing away energetically.  Until you feel strong enough to stand without flinching, it is best to use your tools protect yourself.  Believe it or not, there will come a time when you have enough strength to stand and not flinch, not even a little!

 

Every Gift comes with challenges, blessings and purpose.  Perhaps in the future, you will know better how to help when you see something.  When is the time to pursue and develop your gifts?  Anytime, right now, or whenever the opportunity presents itself, you are naturally stepping into the next level.  Your work is to keep developing yourself Spiritually, cultivating your Center and building your Connection to yourself and what is above you.  Facing your resistance and offering willingness to the Gift is your path to development.  But remember that as you develop, your sight will become much more than 20/20!

Tattood Buddhist sees that you are shining so bright, she’s gotta wear shades!   Perhaps we should go shopping for some Psychic stylin’ Sunglasses together!

TATTOOD BUDDHIST Responds to Looking for a Relationship Antidote

Needing a Toxic Friendship Antidote asks…

 Dear Tattood Buddhist:

Hello!  How do you let go of toxic relationships?  I have a friend who was “there” for me when I got divorced, but now she cuts me down and belittles me when I’m around her, and acts superior to me.  I saw her Saturday night, and I was in tears Sunday because I realized what was going on and that I’m going to have to let go of a friend.

How do I look inside myself and find the answers so that situations like above don’t hurt me so much?  I am pretty sure that my history with people makes me more sensitive, but I don’t want the Independence card to represent me.   I want to be open to people who are worthy of me being open to them, and to not be so scared to talk and open up to strangers.

Can you help me find a way to keep my friendships strong and make me even stronger?

Thanks for the relationship vaccination!

Dear Needing a Toxic Friendship Antidote:

What a great question!  We all have stomach churning moments when we realize that a friend is not being very friend like.  The confusion comes when we ask the question, “How much of what I am feeling is accurate?”  And “How much is reaction to triggers that are really from my past?”  If you are feeling a certain way, you must trust that there is a reason and that your feelings are telling you the truth.  However, when we try to interpret our feelings, sometimes our own filters can create distortion and misinterpretations.  Now, add the complication of both parties having filters and past “ghosts that haunt”, and sometimes we get toxic soup.  Remember though, that sometimes communications issues are more of an alphabet soup.  You say that your friend was “there” for you at a very difficult time in your life.  It sounds like this friend really wants to be your friend.

You ask about opening up to strangers, but what about opening up to your friends?  Have talked to your friend about how you are feeling?  Just because a friend is doing something that hurts you, doesn’t mean that you have to end the friendship.  We work so hard and sacrifice so much to process and maintain love relationships.  We often forget that friendships, when they are important to us, need to be maintained and communications perfected.  Is it worth a few minutes of discomfort to see if the relationship can be saved?  This friend may not be aware of his or her impact on you.   Having clearing conversations with friends is a special skill. It can take years of practice to get comfortable and feel confident with these kinds of talks.  Yet, it is a most important skill to learn.  If you already willing to end the friendship, anyway, what have you got to lose by having a conversation about what is bothering you?

The last part of your question is my Favorite!  When you look inside of yourself for answers, you are bound to find them.  The real core of any reactivity with another person is the way in which you secretly judge and punish yourself.  Do you see what I did there?  I gave you a hint for how to achieve your own emotional independence.  Emotional Independence is a key factor in your ability to have Emotional INTER-dependence with others.  The three most important factors in achieving emotional independence are emotional awareness, emotional honesty and the willingness to offer yourself unconditional acceptance and forgiveness. 

Try this:  Pretend you are a contestant on that T.V. game show, “Family Feud”.  Ask questions about your inner self-talk!  How does the way your friend speaks to you correspond to how you secretly feel about yourself?  TOP FIVE WAYS YOU JUDGE YOURSELF – TOP FIVE WAYS YOUR FRIEND MAKES YOU FEEL JUDGED  —  ding, ding, ding, Survey Says!!!

If you sit with yourself and you still find that the right thing to do is to end the relationship, then trust yourself and what you know.  Don’t second guess yourself.  Find a way to make your ending as loving and peaceful as your friendship has been at other moments in your life.  End it in such a way that you can walk away clean and clear with no strings or regrets trailing behind you.  Give lots of Gratitude for the love and friendship that you have shared.

In Relationships, we will always have moments of hurt and disappointment.  We will also find moments of incredible generosity and Grace.  The real Toxic Relationship Antidote is to maintain a loving and accepting connection with yourself.  When you can see yourself in the light of compassion and empathy, you also see others with the same lens.  Once you truly learn to see yourself as perfect, even with all of your lovely flaws and quirks, you will see everyone in your life through Love colored glasses.

Let me know when you will be appearing on “Family Feud”, my dear.  Tattood Buddhist will be tuning in!

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TATTOOD BUDDHIST OFFERS THIS POEM… “Time to Bloom”

TIME TO BLOOM

 

Urgent whispers crowd my mind

Alone, I conceive my plight.

To ease my essence from midnight sleep

And open my wings to the dawning light.

 

From inert seed to tight wound bud,

My life force surges forth.

Lotus springing from the mud,

 as potent form is birthed.

 

I burst from swaddled essence,

heeding whispers calling clear.

my True form readies in the now

to Bloom beyond my fear.

 

a poem by Deb Paradise, c/2012, all rights reserved.